Do you feel things could run more smoothly with less frustration to tire you out? Like mislaying the garden tools or the favourite recipe book for that special meal, not to mention difficulty finding a satisfying job, loving partner, comfortable home? When you seem to be swimming against the current of life, then don’t you feel dispirited and drained?
Animals in their natural habitats don’t have these difficulties. They seem to be in harmony with the flow of nature. Call it instinct but they have less trouble finding food to eat, building their shelter, finding their mate, caring for their young and all this without having any instruction or money.
So how does one go with the flow?
Part of the trick is getting absorbed in the ‘here and now’. Focusing your entire mind on what is happening in the present moment. This means no spare time to worry about the future or feel guilty about the past. This is similar to what they say in Buddhist circles about mindfulness. They are talking about attentive awareness to the reality of things. Mindfulness practice, is increasingly being employed in Western psychology to alleviate a variety of mental and physical conditions, including obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety and in the prevention of relapse in depression and drug addiction. One needs to lose oneself in the flow of life in order to find oneself.
Part of an inner focus of mindfulness is an attitude of fully engaging in what one is doing. It means facing experience head on and accepting whatever the challenges and opportunities it offers instead of avoiding it or trying to make it into something else. Dealing with the immediacy of the current situation, rather than possible futures or the past. The Zen Buddhist masters used every conceivable means to awaken their students to the ‘eternal now’. The ultimate reality is seen to lie right at the heart of daily existence, if one but knows how the grasp the absolute moment.
Adrenaline junkies seek out dangerous situations like snowboarding down mountains. It’s as if they cannot experience a sense of being really alive in just ordinary situations. They are missing out on the ‘power of now’ to give them any buzz in their normal life at home and work.
Perhaps they don’t know about, what has been called, the ‘illusion of senses’. This is holding to a mistaken notion that the external side of life determines one’s inner sense of well-being. According to many spiritual thinkers, the reality is different.
What exists within the human spirit flows into what is on the external side of life. In other words, happiness, contentment, excitement flows from the divine presence within our soul to the outer part of experience and not the other way round. It is not what happens to us that matters but our attitude towards it. The mystic can fathom this, by standing aside from sensory impressions and focusing instead on what is within.
But for the rest of us existence seems very different. There is a sense of self as being somehow apart from the rest of life, apart from the one – the one source of all life, the one creator of everything, the one divine source of life. We are caught up in how life appears – our own individual interpretations, our own reconstructed memories, our own misconceptions. We follow what self-intelligence sees as the appearance rather than trusting in the reality.
Swedenborg suggests that this notion of inflow of divine reality can be seen by comparing it with the flow of heat and light from the sun into earthly objects, which for example gives rise to plant-life producing different colours. And so going with the flow involves recognising the inflow of the divine into the mundane. Spiritual heat creates warm-heartedness and spiritual light causes an enlightened understanding.
Seeing the flow into our experiences of what is uplifting, creative, illuminating, and fortunately co-incidental, will inspire hope, love, trust. When things go pear-shaped the flow of illumination can show us where we are going wrong and we can learn from our mistakes.
Going with the flow also means learning to trust in what Swedenborg calls the ‘stream of providence’ instead of trusting in oneself. Life’s journey is a bit like floating down a river. This will involve going with a gentle flow but it also could mean getting stranded on mudflats, blocked midstream by rocky outcrops, having to cope with rapids, and cross-currents. The point is no matter what life throws at you, it is possible to keep one’s balance by believing that what is needed will be provided, what is vulnerable to harm will be protected, what is lost will be found. In other words trusting in the stream of divine providence.
Swedenborg also points out that orientating towards the divine flow however requires the individual to no longer be orientated towards self. No longer watching out for what suits one-self, how things impinge on one’s comfort zone. For when the love of self no longer rules your heart, then you rise above your worries concerning the transient things of the world.
“Those are not in the stream of Providence who trust in themselves alone and attribute all things to themselves… Be it known also that insofar as anyone is in the stream of Providence, so far he is in a state of peace.
(Swedenborg. Arcana Coelestia section 8478 4)
Copyright 2011 Stephen Russell-Lacy
Hi Stephen,
I find it difficult to respond to this approach to life from a Swedenborgian perspective (a member of the Olivet New Church in Toronto Can.)
This almost seems the ideal, while on the other side it seems like sitting in the basement watching television all day.. or sitting in a canoe but not going anywhere. Is this regarded as growing spiritually? What is your take on this?
Regards
Adri
Grace Sabarus from Indonesia is posting an idea on TED.com and the question is:
What if there’s no consequences associated with choosing and making decision?
And this is one of her first comments:
“..We are currently implementing a newly found community system by our top community leaders. It’s “one way love” concept. It means, we are offering love to anyone in the community without expecting reward and without judging mistakes. All we are required to practice forgiveness when someone hurts the other, practice encouragement when they fail showing good behavior or thinking and practice understanding to choose bad choices. We don’t apply any consequences, no judgment and nobody has made mistakes for there’s no measurement for mistakes.
We have been applying this for 6 month now. It was very very had in the first place. Now it’s about to shape. This is the place I want to be all the time. The “one way love” have flourished into unconditional acceptance. The unconditional acceptance makes bad people turn to be much better person. When nobody judge, bad people turns to have nothing to defend. So, they choose to do good as example set by others.
Our community concept of “one way love” has been adopted by communities in Brazil and we would love to travel and live for a year or two wherever the world want us to bring this concept into..”
Hi Adri. Thank you for writing. I am assuming you are asking about the ‘one way love’ concept. I am attracted to the ideal of offering kindness to people without expecting reward and without being judgmental. I know I often fail in doing this. I don’t think this ideal contradicts obliging others to face up to the consequences of their actions and I guess this means making judgments about behaviour. It is unacceptable to burgle my home. Judge the act but don’t jump to conclusions about the character of the perpetrator. Hard I know. Regards Stephen